In the 16th century, St. John of the Cross wrote a poem describing the soul’s journey on its spiritual road with regard to the quest for a perfect union with God that can be achieved in this lifetime. It was called the dark night due to the hardships, struggles and difficulties the soul goes through to purge itself of the material world. And while some days the struggle will be difficult, it won’t be so bad that you want to end things as would be the case in clinical depression. The soul stays strong even in the darkest times and pulls us through in order to emerge out into the light. The dark night of ...
Divorce Coach
ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO MOVE ON?
Everyone heals at different times after a break up due to many factors such as the length of the relationship, having children, betrayal and so on and as no two relationships are the same you cannot set a time for the healing process. It took me years to heal my heart properly and while I wish it had been quicker, the good thing is I did eventually get over it and so will you. How you broke up makes a difference and if it was amicable with no others involved it will be easier than if you were cheated on or lied to. Anger, bitterness and an inability to forgive are normal reactions but it’s important to work ...
Getting Through The Early Days
A breakup is going to be one of the biggest challenges you will face and being prepared is the best way forward. Here I want to share some tips that got me through the worst times in the early days and helped me cope with emotional overwhelm. Don’t beat yourself up and think you’re a failure. It’s easy to go into victim mode and constantly go over and over what you could have done differently. If you find yourself in this loop of never-ending thought, divert your focus by reading something uplifting, doing something which you have to really think about or get out with a friend. Give yourself a ...
Can You Divorce With Dignity?
The very word ‘divorce’ conjures up all sorts of imagery, much like something out of the movie ‘War of the Roses’! And while it will be different for everyone, at some point both parties will experience a conflict of some sort. So is it really possible to divorce with dignity? Many couples separating will sail through the divorce process, having accepted the marriage was over long ago, while others will fight their way through it like two bitter enemies intent on only one person being left standing at the end. For many of my clients going through a divorce, it isn’t a mutual decision and there will be ...
Why I Needed A Divorce Coach
I honestly believed my life was over and to a certain extent it was, but only the life I had been living. My life was going to change completely and I had to deal with it in order to move forward and live my life, so I had to let go of the old expectations limiting beliefs and accept change was on the horizon. The emotional roller coaster you end up on feels like it may never stop and from the minute you wake to the minute you fall asleep, your brain is in constant overdrive about the situation you are facing. I went to many different therapists on my journey and I found some that worked and some that ...
Coping After Divorce
Your divorce is going to be one of the biggest challenges you will face. So being prepared is the best way forward. Here I want to share some steps that got me through the worst times and helped me with coping after divorce. 1. Don’t beat yourself up and think you’re a failure. It’s easy to go into victim mode and constantly go over and over what you could have done differently. If you find yourself in this loop of never-ending thought, divert your focus by reading something uplifting or doing something which you have to really think about. 2. Give yourself a time limit on talking about your ...
