Divorce is said to be the second most traumatic experience next to the death of a loved one. So it’s no wonder so many people need that extra bit of help navigating a breakup. Trying to juggle the legal, financial and emotional parts could leave even the strongest of people in complete overwhelm, feeling lost, lonely and even depressed. Add to that you might be dealing with kids and co-parenting. This is where a coach comes in to help with the overwhelm, help you put a plan of action in place and stay on top of the anxiety that may arise. Divorce can be super lonely and you can end up feeling ...
Emotional overwhelm
Breakups and The Dark Night Of The Soul
In the 16th century, St. John of the Cross wrote a poem describing the soul’s journey on its spiritual road with regard to the quest for a perfect union with God that can be achieved in this lifetime. It was called the dark night due to the hardships, struggles and difficulties the soul goes through to purge itself of the material world. And while some days the struggle will be difficult, it won’t be so bad that you want to end things as would be the case in clinical depression. The soul stays strong even in the darkest times and pulls us through in order to emerge out into the light. The dark night of ...
ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO MOVE ON?
Everyone heals at different times after a break up due to many factors such as the length of the relationship, having children, betrayal and so on and as no two relationships are the same you cannot set a time for the healing process. It took me years to heal my heart properly and while I wish it had been quicker, the good thing is I did eventually get over it and so will you. How you broke up makes a difference and if it was amicable with no others involved it will be easier than if you were cheated on or lied to. Anger, bitterness and an inability to forgive are normal reactions but it’s important to work ...
A NEW EARTH, A NEW BEGINNING
I am in no way a guru or master when it comes to spirituality, but I have had an inner knowing there was much more to life since I was a small child. In the last couple of decades, I have passionately thrown myself into all things spiritual and even more so after the breakdown of my marriage in 2012. I believe that year to have been a key year for many people due to the Mayan calendar ending. This was a huge turning point for humanity. My big awakening, however, happened last year where many of the lightworkers were brought ‘online’ to seek the truth and help the world and humanity to ascend to a higher ...
The Empath and the Narcissist
Empaths are emotional, gentle and super nurturing people. They feel the very soul of a person and have a strong desire to help others. They have the ability to feel another person’s pain and emotional hurt which can be both a blessing and a curse. A narcissist is the opposite, lacking the ability to feel emotions or care about anyone else. They are able to copy and fake emotions in order to get their own way and they play the victim well which triggers a response in the empath to help them, feel sorry for them and keep them in a cycle of torment. This can be very difficult to break free ...
Getting Through The Early Days
A breakup is going to be one of the biggest challenges you will face and being prepared is the best way forward. Here I want to share some tips that got me through the worst times in the early days and helped me cope with emotional overwhelm. Don’t beat yourself up and think you’re a failure. It’s easy to go into victim mode and constantly go over and over what you could have done differently. If you find yourself in this loop of never-ending thought, divert your focus by reading something uplifting, doing something which you have to really think about or getting out with a friend. Give yourself ...
Coping After Divorce
Your divorce is going to be one of the biggest challenges you will face. So being prepared is the best way forward. Here I want to share some steps that got me through the worst times and helped me with coping after divorce. 1. Don’t beat yourself up and think you’re a failure. It’s easy to go into victim mode and constantly go over and over what you could have done differently. If you find yourself in this loop of never-ending thought, divert your focus by reading something uplifting or doing something which you have to really think about. 2. Give yourself a time limit on talking about your ...