In the 16th century, St. John of the Cross wrote a poem describing the soul’s journey on its spiritual road with regard to the quest for a perfect union with God that can be achieved in this lifetime. It was called the dark night due to the hardships, struggles and difficulties the soul goes through to purge itself of the material world. And while some days the struggle will be difficult, it won’t be so bad that you want to end things as would be the case in clinical depression. The soul stays strong even in the darkest times and pulls us through in order to emerge out into the light. The dark night of ...
Family
ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO MOVE ON?
Everyone heals at different times after a break up due to many factors such as the length of the relationship, having children, betrayal and so on and as no two relationships are the same you cannot set a time for the healing process. It took me years to heal my heart properly and while I wish it had been quicker, the good thing is I did eventually get over it and so will you. How you broke up makes a difference and if it was amicable with no others involved it will be easier than if you were cheated on or lied to. Anger, bitterness and an inability to forgive are normal reactions but it’s important to work ...
Why I Needed A Divorce Coach
I honestly believed my life was over and to a certain extent it was, but only the life I had been living. My life was going to change completely and I had to deal with it in order to move forward and live my life, so I had to let go of the old expectations limiting beliefs and accept change was on the horizon. The emotional roller coaster you end up on feels like it may never stop and from the minute you wake to the minute you fall asleep, your brain is in constant overdrive about the situation you are facing. I went to many different therapists on my journey and I found some that worked and some that ...
Coping After Divorce
Your divorce is going to be one of the biggest challenges you will face. So being prepared is the best way forward. Here I want to share some steps that got me through the worst times and helped me with coping after divorce. 1. Don’t beat yourself up and think you’re a failure. It’s easy to go into victim mode and constantly go over and over what you could have done differently. If you find yourself in this loop of never-ending thought, divert your focus by reading something uplifting or doing something which you have to really think about. 2. Give yourself a time limit on talking about your ...
Emotional Overwhelm
What do you do when you are going through emotional overwhelm? I had one of those recently and as I was also quite ill made it even worse. My body was telling me to slow down and remember to take better care of myself. It was telling me to slow down my thoughts and let go of what no longer served me. Have you noticed when we are physically and emotionally healthy, very little gets to us? We get a little run down sometimes but when you are going through a highly emotional period in life it’s important to listen to that inner voice and take some time out. I had an unexpected emotional meltdown around an ...
Why Divorce Was the Best Thing To Happen To Me
When I left school and started working, I had the belief that I should live a little first then meet and marry my prince charming, have kids and live happily ever after. It’s what we learn from our storybooks when we are little after all. No one goes into marriage preparing for a divorce and neither they should. During my marriage, I went through the motions of how I thought a good wife and mother should be. I cooked the meals, did homework, kept the house clean, drove kids to activities and listened to my husband after his long day at work. I was a wife and mother. I was no longer that independent girl ...
